Are You Living in Love? Loving Relationship Intimacy
Love has been called the best word in the dictionary. It means the devotion of one person to another, which depends on mutual desire, respect, kindness and understanding. But love can mean more than these things, as it involves a whole range of positive and even negative emotional and psychological states, from pure virtue or ideal love, the highest interpersonal relation, to the easiest recreational pleasure. In fact, the concept of love is so broad that it includes not only feelings and emotions, but also reasoning, practical skills, social skills, physical needs and so on.
The key is to learn to use love language to express feelings of all sorts, in all kinds of relationships. To feel loved and accepted by your partner is a wonderful feeling, and expresses the greatest hope and possibility for creating healthy relationships. The best way to do this is by communicating your need to be loved, which could be in the form of an expression of affection or a gift of time, money, space and attention. When you feel loved, you are also likely to express love in other ways such as making use of other languages (such as gentle kisses, hugs, smiles and so on) and expressing feelings through gestures and touch.
Love has an important role to play in building strong, long-term relationships. The key is to recognise and value the feelings of others, including our own, and find ways of responding to them appropriately. For example, when we have someone who we care about and who we want to spend time with, we may find that we express our love through words and gestures, by holding hands or embracing, by telling stories, by sharing jokes and stories, by being supportive and helping, or even by being sensitive and caring about the other person’s feelings and needs. Our language and our behaviours can become rich and expressive as a result of using love language.
Love language is really just a set of highly relevant, practical strategies that you can adopt to enhance your responses to others. One strategy may work for one person but not for another, and another person may respond in a way that is totally different from your own. This is why it’s important to experiment and take things slowly. As you become more aware of your own feelings and needs and begin to express them more freely, your ability to build a healthy relationship will broaden and deepen. You will learn how to communicate your needs and thoughts clearly and truthfully to your partner, and how to share your love with others in an equally fulfilling way.
When you are in love, you also want to enjoy the special qualities of that love, because these qualities contribute to a well-being. When you are in love, you want to be around your partner as much as possible and enjoy all of the positive aspects of their personality. However, you also want to avoid being pulled into their lives too deeply, because this can take the enjoyment out of your own life as well. This is why it’s so helpful to have other people in your life who understand what you are feeling and what you are going through.
To ensure that you have both deep and positive feelings about your romantic love relationship, make sure that you are paying attention to how you are feeling on a regular basis. This is the best way to keep from getting caught up in negativity and onto someone else’s good side. When you listen to your partner and hear their honest reactions, you will gain insight into their unique emotional responses as well. When you pay attention, you will become a better lover and friend for each other. It’s that simple!