Despite its widespread appeal, love is not a purely rational response to another person’s value or worth. A good account of love, says Velleman, is not based on the desire to give or receive or on its antecedent value. Its ‘depth’ is an intuitive response to persons as such. In the first chapter, he explains why the bestowal account of love is so appealing. This kind of account, however, ignores the crucial question of whether love has a purely creative or rational function.
Love has many forms, and can be described as a “give and take” relationship. While you may have a romantic partner and parents who love you unconditionally, your love for each will be different. For example, your love for your dog won’t be the same as your love for your romantic partner. On the other hand, your love for a dog can be very intense and deep. There are many other types of deep affection, including love for a pet. Nevertheless, love is a complex emotion that is governed by a number of factors.
Humans spend a longer childhood than other species, and they are dependent on adults for many years before they are capable of surviving on their own. As a result, love is especially vital for humans, based on biological and evolutionary reasons. Research has shown that people’s brains are activated in similar regions when they are in love – the same regions as those activated by cocaine. And while this may seem counter-intuitive to some, the evidence points to a similar connection between love and a positive social outcome.
In contrast, romantic love is essentially for receiving; while sacrificial love is purely for giving. Although sacrificial love has evolutionary advantages, it is not as strong as romantic love. It strengthens bonds and offers a chance for meaningful change. It is the most powerful and meaningful type of love. A love-based relationship can create significant change in its recipients. A healthy relationship is built on mutual understanding. If one partner does not love each other, it could lead to a divorce.
People in love feel a sense of protection over their partners. They hate seeing other people suffer and want to make their lives easier. They also have no need to spend time on “dates.” They are perfectly happy sitting next to each other on the couch. When a relationship is in deep, trust is built on the foundation of friendship and spiritual growth. For those in love, it can only get deeper. A person who is truly in love is able to share everything about themselves.
There are many other aspects of love that are important. The first and most obvious is physical attraction. If you have a strong attraction to someone, you’re probably in love. Holding hands or making out on the couch are two of the most common feelings. You may even watch the home team games together. You’ll find that the things you normally do seem more exciting and fun when you’re with your new beau. Even the things you used to do every day may become more exciting.