What is love? In a world where most of us feel more like dating people we barely know, how do we know when we are falling in love? Does love exist, or is it just an idealistic, unrealized dream? We may believe that our feelings towards the people we love are what truly define our relationships. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. After all, love is subjective, and one man’s love for his wife may be quite different from another man’s love for his daughter.
Love between couples can be similar to this imaginary picture, except that reality is seldom as neat and tidy as we imagine it. Just because two people declare their undying love towards each other doesn’t mean that they share the same visions of their future. People vary in their expectations and beliefs about love and marriage. One partner’s love may be completely different from another partner’s love.
If you feel love towards a parent, sibling, or friend does this mean that you will always be loved and protected? This sounds like a lie, but it is not. We are exposed to images of our parents and siblings as our entire lives, even if those images are only in our dreams. Children are surrounded by these images from the time they are able to see, hear, and interact with their parents, and so naturally, these expectations will carry over into their relationship with their siblings and friends.
The only way that love can become real is if one or both partners decide to take action and make it real. That is why it is important to take the time to understand your partner’s love for you before you try to love them back. Try to understand what your partner’s motivations are, and do not force their buttons. If you show your discomfort by questioning their feelings or expressing confusion, this will only push your partner away. Also, if you have already fallen in love with your partner, remember that a person can fall in love with a person who is physically attractive, but is not of the same “type”. So keep an open mind and don’t make assumptions that you know what your partner wants.
While love is a very powerful emotion, it is also sometimes difficult to express, so it is important to put some space between the two of you and start slow. Be sure that you are not pressuring your partner to return to you, and try not to get emotional about your breakup. Let him or her know without words that you still love them and that you are willing to work through your problems to get back together. Also ask your partner to reassure you that they are still the one you love and will love in the future, regardless of the situation. Try to be supportive, gentle, and supportive when your partner is experiencing an episode, but be firm when trying to talk your partner out of their depression.
You have to be patient and understanding while your partner is going through a rough patch, because it is natural to doubt yourself and to worry that the love that you had is no longer strong. However, the truth is that when a man or woman suffers from a breakup, it is much more common for them to fall into depression. This can cause some awkward situations where the person feels like they don’t know how to fix things, and they begin to question whether they should even try to get back together. You do want to encourage your partner to talk about their problems and let them know that you support them. Remember that if you don’t encourage the two of you to talk about each other, you are only encouraging them to wallow in their pain.